Be Only You

The term resilience floods our news and social media feeds in the forms of memes, reels or inspirational quotes. Although many of these really lack weighting on just how difficult and painful the process of building it really is. They also fail to highlight how the levels of resilience rise and fall like the inhale and exhale of your stomach. In addition to the unavoidable gain of significant levels of self-doubt that you develop through out the process of building resilience.

Resilience is the process and outcome of successfully adapting to difficult or challenging life experiences, especially through mental, emotional, and behavioral flexibility and adjustment to external and internal demands. ~ American Psychological Association

Resilience is a form of personal growth and unfortunately requires the experience of pretty challenging and painful situations. Its the fertile soil for your seed, without it there is no growth, no flower and everything remains stuck in place.

3 Tips During Resilience Building Times

1. Create Routine

This gives your mind and body a sense of certainty and in turn safety. Ideally this routine involves some form of exercising (especially in nature), nutritional foods, time with supportive family and friends. It helps you stay focused on what you see directly ahead. It helps reorientate the brain away from the spiralling of catastrophising the worst possible outcomes or scenarios. We all have our coping mechanisms, some better for us than others. What is important is recognising when you are leaning on this and giving yourself compassion. It’s ok to have these but don’t get too reliant because some may inhibit the growth you actually need. 

2. Ground Yourself

During times of intense struggle, your brain is on repeat with the constant overthinking replay. Here you are spending way too much time in the brain and mind disrupting your vibration. It’s so important to focus on regrounding yourself reguarly throughout the day. Do the things that keep you grounded, I mean literally keeping your two feet on the ground (figuratively and physically). This could be a seated meditation or mindfulness with your bare feet on the ground pressing all 4 corners into the earth. It could be listening to a calming playlist or getting lost in colouring in or your favourite hobby or activity.

3. Affirm The Positive Outcome

Too often in difficult situations we focus all our brain power on focusing on the worse possible outcome. In turn we give these scenarios our energy, our power and sometimes even bring them into fruition. What you must do in these situations is focus on the positive outcome, the ideal scenario for you and create positive statements as if they have already occurred. Repeat them over and over in your mind, or even write them down on cards around your house and bedroom.

One I have been using recently by Louise Hay is “All is well, this situation is for my higher good. Only good can come from it. I am safe”

“Challenges give us the chance to show up for ourselves, to learn something new, to build strength, knowledge and resilience” ~ Roxie Nafousi

Resilience isn’t just something you are born with or wake up one day with. Like learning a new skill or building muscle in the gym, it takes time, practise and likely mainly failed attempts and difficult experiences. It’s also something that you can only appreciate while reflecting once the situation has past. Although as you move through your life, you will notice how equipped you have become when challenges arise. That inner knowing that you have faced worse before, you know that “this too shall pass” and it won’t last forever. What is crucial in these moments is understanding exactly that, the storm will move on and brighter days are ahead. 

When the dust settles, make sure to ask yourself what did you learn through the situation? What growth can you bring forward into the next phase of your life or relationship? If you don’t then I think you are missing something really special and valuable – your personal growth.

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Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist, these opinions are my own views and thoughts. I strongly encourage you to work with your healthcare practitioner and/or therapist if any of these views have had a negative impact on you. Also a note on the importance of accurate research using psychedelics for therapeutic processes, where it is illegal and legal. Also never be alone or without a trained person. Your integration afterwards and support network is crucial.